HOW TO APOLOGIZE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

HOW TO APOLOGIZE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

1. ADMIT YOU ARE WRONG
Many grown ups are not humble enough to admit to their fault. Will you mess up your love just because of your pride?

2. EXPLAIN WHY YOU DID WHAT YOU DID
Give the background sequence of events that led to you being on the wrong. A blank apology doesn’t address the issue

3. HEAR FROM YOUR PARTNER HOW HE/SHE FEELS
Allow your partner to vent, cry, shout, and tell you how much your actions/words pain him/her. Emotions and hurt shouldn’t be hidden if true reconcilition and healing is to occur. This also shows you care for your partner’s feelings

4. SAY SORRY
Let your partner hear you say those words, ‘I am sorry, please forgive me’

5. COMMIT TO NOT DOING IT AGAIN
Say you won’t repeat the mistake again and mean it. An apology is empty if it’s not sincere

6. HEAR FROM YOUR PARTNER IF YOU ARE FORGIVEN
Get to hear your partner tell you ‘I forgive you’. It has to be official

7. THANK YOUR SPOUSE FOR FORGIVING YOUR
Appreciate the goodness of your partner’s heart to forgive you. It takes love to overlook your wrong, don’t take that for granted

8. AGREE ON A PLAN TO KEEP THE WRONG FROM BEING REPEATED
This is why it is important to know the history that led to you doing or saying wrong; you two get to agree on what to do to prevent it from happening again

9. SEAL IT WITH A KISS
Kiss as soon you are given an official forgiveness. Now that your partner has forgiven you, your lips will be well-received

10. MAKE LOVE
Your spouse’s heart feels safe because you care, you feel pardoned; make passionate love to bring you two even closer. Make-up sex

11. DO SOMETHING SWEET
Go out of your way to make your partner smile: leave a love note under the pillow, buy her flowers or a gift, cook his favourite meal, take a photo of the both you happy and frame it, cater to each other

12. TAKE YOUR PARTNER OUT ON A DATE
Go out on a romantic and memorable date. Look into each other’s eyes, melt each other’s hearts, dress up and go out for a night to remember

13. AFFIRM EACH OTHER’S LOVE
Tell each other how much you love and mean to each other, leave no doubt about your love, show that you two still have love, ‘you’re still the one that I love’

14. ACTUALLY CHANGE
The best kind of sorry is when you actually change. Let your partner see a new you

15. DON’T KEEP A RECORD OF WRONGS
Don’t keep reminding each other of your wrongs, move past the mistakes

© Akello Oliech & Dayan Masinde

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